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At one time or another you’ve probably let the word “yes” slip out before you really knew what you were saying.
“Have you ever been to…”
“Do you like…”
“Can you make a…”
Fear of embarrassment or the desire to be bigger than we actually are can cause us to pretend to be something we’ve never been.
Yep, you’ve been fake.
Admittedly so have I.
There have been time when I told someone that I was capable of doing something that I really wasn’t. Then I was left to agonize about how I was going to get the project done or the task completed.
Why don’t we just say, “No, I don’t know how but I can give it a try.”
My first pair of new Jordan basketball shoes were fake.
Patent leather, black and blue with white soles. They looked amazing, but they were fake. From the distance you couldn’t tell but the closer you got to the shoe the more obvious it was. It was only a short time before the pressure of a pick up basketball game caused the shoe to show its true self. It started to fall apart leaving me angry that I had been duped. Even more angry that I could have severely injured myself from using a phony.
Is there an area of your life where you need to stop being fake?
Developing the courage to say, ”I don’t really know but I’m trying to find out,” will lift a huge weight off your shoulders. It might save others from hurt and heartache too.
Your “Fordans” made me laugh. Some people think I know a lot and in order to keep up with this expectation, I act like I know more than a may. I do it because, I am afraid of disappointing others.
Recently I started not giving answers even when I may have the answer. Its really help me to not be fake. I can just be regular and not an”expert”.
When I got them I was thinking since I paid for them already I might as well wear them. I think we all had a good laugh. Fear of disappointing others can be crippling. I’m slowly working through it. Nothing wrong with being a regular guy. Sure is a lot less stressful.
I know I am so late in responding to this but too bad! I think this is a big problem some times with us guys. Why? Because we are natural problem solvers and some of us love a good challenge. So we agree to do something, thinking “aaah, how hard could it be” then we end up not being able to follow through.
For some even when we get to the point where we realize that we have too much on our plate we still like Roperii107 said “are afraid of disappointing others” so we either keep trying or just give up and except defeat.
Vicious cycle!!